Thursday, December 13, 2012

Rejection! How to handle it

It is inevitable! you will be turned down at various points in your life.Boy, rejection isn't nice.Whether it's from a girl or boy you fancy, an employer you really want to work for, or a circle of people you thought were your friends, rejection can hurt.
Let’s face it: rejection sucks.
No matter how you slice it, getting turned down never feels good. While the adage, “Never take it personally” is good advice, it’s never quite that easy to walk away unscathed.When people say they feel the "pain" of rejection, they don't mean they feel actual physical pain. Or do they? In fact, rejection can hurt in an almost physical way.
But thankfully it is possible to learn how to handle rejection without letting it destroy you.

Consider the Source: Is the rejection coming from someone whose opinion you value? If not, don’t give it another thought!

Don’t take it personally: There are times in our lives when we are rejected simply because of timing. If you ask someone out to lunch but they have already eaten lunch, well they are going to turn you down! If you apply for a part-time job at a department store during the Christmas holidays the week of Christmas, they are going to turn you down because they have enough staff. Some rejections have nothing to do with us. So if you got turned down, do not second guess that you are no good or that no one likes you. It may just be a question of timing!

Be Sad…But then move on: Rejection is no fun. Ever. Unless you get comfortable with the discomfort it presents.Sure, it doesn’t feel good. Sure, it feels personal. Sure, you wish you could please everyone.You’re not alone in these feelings. The key is to not let them stand in your way as you try to advance your business and your life. It’s okay to feel bad. For a little while, not forever.
Be kind to yourself: Being rejected is a disappointment to say the least. It can be very frustrating to put yourself out there for either personal or professional reasons and then, be told “no.” So, be kind to yourself after getting rejected in some way. Engage in positive self talk and encourage yourself for the future. Do not be silly by drowning your sorrows in food, alcohol, cigarettes or overspending.

Have confidence in who you are: Learn to have confidence that people will like you just as you are and to make yourself the best “you” that you can be. Engage in hobbies and activities that you. Laugh and sparkle!People will respond in amazing ways and you will get to experience less rejection!

Know that everyone gets rejected: There are six billion people on this earth. We are all beautiful, unique and different. There are times we are in demand and times we may get rejected. Knowing that rejection is an emotion that many people go through is a reality check! So get over your victim mentality and move on!

Try and try again: A popular sales motto is that it takes twenty “nos” to get to one “yes.” Many successful authors like Robert Kiyosaki and Mark Victor Hansen got their manuscripts rejected several times by publishing houses before they hit big time! Learn from these authors. Do not therefore take rejection as a sign of failure. Instead, press on in your dreams!

Once you’re able to deal with the emotions behind the rejection, you’ll be able to move beyond the fear of it.It’s time to say hello to new opportunities and goodbye to your fear holding you back.Hence, keep picking yourself up when you fall. Do not feel daunted but rejoice because you have found one less way to being turned down.So, even if a new party says “no” to you, you will always be able to transform your 
negative state of mind to a more empowering one!

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