Advice from Celebrities on successful Married Life

DESMOND ELLIOT:

"I dated my wife for about eight years before we finally got married. My kind of job may have exposed me to the opposite sex but the truth is that my wife means the whole world to me. I appreciate my wife and I married her basically for love and nothing else. She is so understanding and caring. These are the two vital attributes I find lacking in most women of today.

I am a Christian, I love my wife and children dearly. I am not prepared to jeopardise the peace and love that reigns in my home. For young men who cannot resist these women and their money, good for them. People are different and so our priorities. I had always wanted to settle down from as young as when I was eighteen, but somehow, it didn't happen. I am a strong believer in the family. A man who wishes to succeed in life must keep the home front happy and the way to do so is to flee from temptation." 

JULIET IBRAHIM:"In every marriage, there are problems but both partners should try their possible best to listen to each other, have good communication and the problems will be resolved as cool as possible for peace to prevail." 

OMOTOLA JALADE EKEINDE:"Being married to somebody outside showbiz is an advantage for me. So I’m imagining maybe that could help. He is not in my profession, so I don’t see him often, and I’m not in his own profession, so he doesn’t see me often, too. We don’t see each other often. So, I guess that gives us space which is important in marriage. He has space and I have space. Don’t forget that a marriage is a partnership of two individuals. 

I had my life before I met him and the same goes for him, so we need to understand and respect each other’s freedom and individuality. I think the reason why a lot of marriages run into trouble is because the couples don’t understand that they are two different people and are into a partnership of and for life.

The purpose of us coming together is to try see how to make each other’s life bearable and not unbearable. I mean, you shouldn’t be in my business all the time and I shouldn’t be in yours. When it is time for us to collaborate and think about how to make our lives more enjoyable and sweeter, we will do that and when it’s time for me to figure out myself I need my partner to get out of my situation; that is totally important. But like I always say, I think the highest part of it is the fear of God.If you fear God and you know that you do not necessarily have to answer to him or her it makes things easier because you know that you have a higher being to answer to. So even when you make mistakes, you report yourself to God first and foremost, so that he can help you out, and then you can go ahead to sort it out with the human being(s). But the good thing is that you wouldn't even do all those naughty stuffs that break marriages because you know somebody up there is watching you."

VAN VICKER:"As for my wife, Adjoa, I think she is going through a lot but I can see she is a strong woman. 

I mean, she was used to me always being around and then overnight, everything changed. She is very understanding and it is amazing.

I mean there are times where I get to Ghana today and I am on another flight the same day or the next day. God knew my destiny and just gave me the perfect wife."

MERCY JOHNSON:“I married the only man on earth who is sweet, tolerant, very understanding, loving, caring and a strong pillar of support in all aspects of my life.

I can tell you with absolute joy that my dress sense is one of the qualities that attracted my husband to me. 

As a married couple, we're happy and overcoming the challenges that come with marriage.

He is not a conservative man. He is forward-looking and fashion-conscious. I love him dearly and he loves me in spite of my faults.

You would be surprised to see the kind of clothes he specially picked for me from top designers around the world. If I wear those clothes to public functions, many conservative people would have a heart attack.I've been pleading with him to let me be dressing like a married woman. Ours is a union built first on friendship, love, trust and complete faith in God.” 

OLU JACOBS:" Like all marriages, we have had our problems. Unless they are dishonest with each other, as a couple, will you say your marriage doesn't face any kind of problem? Ours has had it share, but what I do say each time is that ours is a marriage that God wanted. There are some challenges that when they occur, it could be him or me who would say 'That's it, I've had enough'. One of us would just say 'Okay I've made a mistake in this area, just show me how to sort it out' and that has been the story of our marriage.

The bible says the three-fold card is not easily broken, so let God be the third party in your relationship and it will surely last."